Saturday, February 18, 2006

I'm ok - you're ok

Dr. Thomas Harris introduces the concept of the four different life positions that each of us adopts at any given time. All of us apparently go through four life positions ending up with the last one in a sequential manner except some of us get stuck in the earlier stages (this results in problems that typically need therapy). These four positions are -

1. I'm Not OK, You're OK
2. I'm Not OK, You're Not OK
3. I'm OK, You're Not OK
4. I'm OK, You're OK

In "adult"-mode we have confidence in ourselves and in others - and treat both with respect. The goal should be to be more often is this last "cell", i.e. adult mode.

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